Nisuin VeShiduchin (Marriage and Matchmaking) הלכות נישואין ושידוכין
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+Chapter 1 — The Mitzvah of Marriage and Matters of MatchmakingChapter 1 — The Mitzvah of Marriage and Matters of Matchmaking · 36 seifim
- 1.Every person is obligated to marry in order to…
- 2.A woman is exempt from the mitzvah of procreation,…
- 3.Nowadays we have no one like Ben Azzai, whose…
- 4.If a father asks his son not to marry…
- 5.One whose father instructed him not to marry a…
- 6.One whose parents instructed him not to marry a…
- 7.A young man who was proposed a match in…
- 8.Even when the names of the two fathers-in-law-to-be are…
- 9.A young man who was proposed a match with…
- 10.A father who instructed his daughter never to marry…
- 11.A father who instructed his son to marry for…
- 12.A father who instructed his son not to give…
- 13.A young man who wishes to marry a proper,…
- 14.One who has unfavorable information about a groom or…
- 15.One who knows of a serious illness of the…
- 16.Regarding illnesses that are not so serious, even though…
- 17.Penitents who were formerly secular and had transgressed sins…
- 18.It is permitted for a younger brother to marry…
- 19.One must be very careful regarding what our Sages…
- 20.However, if the young man does not observe Torah…
- 21.It is permitted for a Kohen to marry the…
- 22.Even nowadays, a person should sell all he owns…
- 23.As a matter of strict law, it is permitted…
- 24.It is likewise permitted to marry the daughter of…
- 25.If it appears to a young man that he…
- 26.Whoever has the ability to help his relatives and…
- 27.When parents object to their son's match because the…
- 28.The groom should be cautioned that after meeting the…
- 29.All the more so must the groom and bride…
- 30.Likewise, the groom and bride must be cautioned against…
- 31.One should not delay too long between the engagement…
- 32.The bride should be careful not to go out…
- 33.It is proper and fitting that parents assist the…
- 34.It is proper and fitting to print the wedding…
- 35.The date of the wedding should be written on…
- 36.One whose brother is marrying in a wedding ceremony…
+Chapter 2 — The Proper Time to Schedule a WeddingChapter 2 — The Proper Time to Schedule a Wedding · 9 seifim
- 1.It is permitted to marry in the month of…
- 2.There is no doubt that a wedding should not…
- 3.The practice some follow of not holding weddings in…
- 4.On Rosh Chodesh, even before the molad (new moon),…
- 5.It is permitted to hold a wedding on Sunday,…
- 6.As a matter of strict law it would be…
- 7.It is permitted to hold a wedding ceremony and…
- 8.A woman is not betrothed on Shabbat, nor is…
- 9.Even when the wedding ceremony was delayed on Friday…
+Chapter 3 — The Groom's Conduct on the Day of the WeddingChapter 3 — The Groom's Conduct on the Day of the Wedding · 17 seifim
- 1.The custom of the Sephardim and Eastern communities is…
- 2.Nevertheless, even those who do not fast, or on…
- 3.Those who follow the custom of fasting on their…
- 4.Even according to the Ashkenazic custom of fasting on…
- 5.Some say the bride should not fast on the…
- 6.A groom whose wedding day falls in the month…
- 7.Those who customarily fast on their wedding day, if…
- 8.Some do not recite the confession (viduy) at Shacharit…
- 9.In a synagogue where the groom prays on the…
- 10.Our custom is that the groom does not recite…
- 11.Some grooms customarily immerse in the mikveh on their…
- 12.The groom and bride must sanctify themselves on their…
- 13.One should reconcile with his parents and friends on…
- 14.It is proper and fitting that the groom and…
- 15.It is proper for the groom to increase charitable…
- 16.The custom in Jerusalem in past years was to…
- 17.If the wedding ceremony and betrothal are held on…
+Chapter 4 — Calling the Groom to the TorahChapter 4 — Calling the Groom to the Torah · 4 seifim
- 2.When a groom is present in the synagogue on…
- 3.When there is no Kohen present in the synagogue,…
- 4.On Monday or Thursday, if both a bar mitzvah…
- 5.It is a sacred obligation upon every groom to…
+Chapter 5 — Writing the KetubahChapter 5 — Writing the Ketubah · 12 seifim
- 1.The ketubah is written before the arrangement of the…
- 2.It is proper lechatchilah that there be no erasure…
- 3.It is permitted to draw various decorative designs on…
- 4.The officiating rabbi must carefully verify the names of…
- 5.The Sephardic custom is to write honorific titles for…
- 6.The names of the parents are also written. If…
- 7.If the father is living, one writes "may he…
- 8.After writing "so-and-so son of so-and-so," one writes the…
- 9.It is customary to add the family surname as…
- 10.Some are particular not to write abbreviations in the…
- 11.If the groom is Sephardic, one must be careful…
- 12.Some have the custom that the witnesses sign the…
+Chapter 6 — The Order of Arranging the BetrothalChapter 6 — The Order of Arranging the Betrothal · 29 seifim
- 1.Some have the custom that the groom and bride…
- 2.Some have the custom that the groom's father and…
- 3.The Ashkenazic custom is that those accompanying the groom…
- 4.After the groom has covered the bride's face with…
- 5.Some say the bride should stand to the right…
- 6.Some have the custom of placing ashes on the…
- 7.The halachic authorities disagree about what constitutes the chuppah:…
- 8.It is good and proper that before the rabbi…
- 9.The Sephardic and Eastern custom is to hold the…
- 10.The custom is to spread a tallit even when…
- 11.Some have the custom that the bride purchases the…
- 12.It is proper and fitting nowadays to refrain from…
- 13.When a wedding ceremony is held in a synagogue,…
- 14.Before the betrothal, wine should be poured into a…
- 15.The one reciting the blessing must hold the cup…
- 16.The custom is that the rabbi arranging the betrothal…
- 17.Before the rabbi begins his blessing, he should tell…
- 18.The custom is that the one arranging the betrothal…
- 19.The entire congregation must stand during the betrothal blessing…
- 20.In a place where there is mixing of men…
- 21.Our custom is to recite the wording of the…
- 22.Some have the custom of assisting the one reciting…
- 23.Some have the custom of performing the betrothal at…
- 24.Immediately after the rabbi finishes reciting the betrothal blessing,…
- 25.There is no need to be stringent and require…
- 26.One should make sure in advance, before the wedding,…
- 27.When the seven blessings are recited over an intoxicating…
- 28.As a matter of lechatchilah, the betrothal blessing should…
- 29.An Ashkenazic rabbi arranging the betrothal for one of…
+Chapter 7 — Giving the Ring to the BrideChapter 7 — Giving the Ring to the Bride · 23 seifim
- 1.Immediately after they have blessed over the cup and…
- 2.As a matter of lechatchilah, the one betrothing and…
- 3.Some have the custom that the groom says to…
- 4.The one arranging the betrothal must instruct the witnesses…
- 5.Some say the witnesses must look at the faces…
- 6.The witnesses to the betrothal must be present next…
- 7.Before giving the ring, the bride should remove the…
- 8.The one arranging the betrothal must make clear to…
- 9.If he transgressed and gave her the ring before…
- 10.The rabbi arranging the betrothal must verify that the…
- 11.One must likewise be careful that the witnesses are…
- 12.Before the groom betroths the bride with the ring,…
- 13.Some say it is good for the witnesses to…
- 14.The custom nowadays is to betroth with a ring…
- 15.One does not betroth with a ring containing precious…
- 16.It is good to use a ring made of…
- 17.After the witnesses have seen the ring and confirmed…
- 18.If he said "Behold you are betrothed to me…
- 19.If he betrothed her saying "Behold you are betrothed…
- 20.If the rabbi arranging the betrothal prompts the groom…
- 21.The groom and bride must understand the meaning of…
- 22.If the groom transgressed and gave the ring to…
- 23.One arranging the betrothal who erred and recited "shehakol…
+Chapter 8 — Wrapping in a Tallit at the ChuppahChapter 8 — Wrapping in a Tallit at the Chuppah · 5 seifim
- 1.After the groom has betrothed the bride, he should…
- 2.Before reciting Shehecheyanu, the rabbi arranging the betrothal should…
- 3.While the tallit is spread over the heads of…
- 4.The public must be cautioned not to smoke a…
- 5.The custom some have of blessing the groom and…
+Chapter 9 — Reading the Ketubah Under the ChuppahChapter 9 — Reading the Ketubah Under the Chuppah · 25 seifim
- 1.After the tallit has been spread over the heads…
- 2.Even if they forgot to read the ketubah before…
- 3.As a matter of strict law, it would be…
- 4.The one reading the ketubah should raise his voice…
- 5.It is permitted as a matter of lechatchilah to…
- 6.Our custom is to read the ketubah with a…
- 7.The custom from ancient times is to give the…
- 8.The congregation must stand also during the reading of…
- 9.Before reading the ketubah, the custom is to add…
- 10.One who is honored with reading the ketubah and…
- 11.When the reader reaches the word "and we have…
- 12.After the reading, the groom and witnesses sign, so…
- 13.It suffices for the witnesses to sign with their…
- 14.Some have the custom of writing the ketubah document…
- 15.If the ketubah is written in Ashuri script by…
- 16.Only valid witnesses should sign the ketubah, not family…
- 17.The groom must be made to understand the ketubah's…
- 18.The husband is Torah-obligated to provide his wife's food,…
- 19.Our custom is that the groom also signs the…
- 20.Some say a person is obligated to hire himself…
- 21.During the reading of the ketubah, when the reader…
- 22.The groom and the witnesses must sign with their…
- 23.If the groom and witnesses did not sign immediately…
- 24.The Sephardic custom is that during the reading of…
- 25.After the witnesses and groom have signed the ketubah,…
+Chapter 10 — The Wedding Blessings Under the ChuppahChapter 10 — The Wedding Blessings Under the Chuppah · 12 seifim
- 1.After finishing the reading of the ketubah and giving…
- 2.If the groom and bride are public Shabbat desecrators,…
- 3.Nevertheless, the custom has already developed to be lenient…
- 4.The one arranging the betrothal who recited the betrothal…
- 5.It is preferable to recite both the betrothal blessing…
- 6.The seven blessings under the chuppah are recited only…
- 7.Our custom is to divide the seven blessings, both…
- 8.If they erred and recited the blessing "Sameach tesamach"…
- 9.If the blessings were divided among different Torah scholars,…
- 10.The one reciting the blessing "Asher bara" should not…
- 11.The congregation listening to the blessings under the chuppah…
- 12.After the conclusion of the seven blessings, the one…
+Chapter 11 — The Custom of Breaking the GlassChapter 11 — The Custom of Breaking the Glass · 9 seifim
- 1.After the conclusion of the seven blessings, the groom…
- 2.The custom of breaking the glass at the conclusion…
- 3.Even though the custom as a matter of lechatchilah…
- 4.If neither a glass nor a ceramic cup is…
- 5.There is no need for the cup to be…
- 6.There is no need to be particular about using…
- 7.The custom of the groom breaking a cup at…
- 8.Even though after the chuppah the bride is permitted…
- 9.The groom must be careful to guard all his…
+Chapter 12 — Seclusion (Yichud) After the ChuppahChapter 12 — Seclusion (Yichud) After the Chuppah · 1 seifim
Read this siman →+Chapter 13 — Head Covering for the BrideChapter 13 — Head Covering for the Bride · 2 seifim
Read this siman →+Chapter 14 — The Mitzvah of Gladdening the Groom and BrideChapter 14 — The Mitzvah of Gladdening the Groom and Bride · 23 seifim
- 1.It is a great mitzvah to gladden the groom…
- 2.Some in Jerusalem had the custom of bringing only…
- 3.The mitzvah of gladdening the groom and bride is…
- 4.A Torah scholar or distinguished person whose mere presence…
- 5.Even one who does not partake of the meal…
- 6.The obligation to gladden the groom and bride applies…
- 7.Some say there is no impediment to carrying the…
- 8.If the groom forgoes being gladdened, one does not…
- 9.Some have the custom that if one of the…
- 10.If one of the parents of the groom or…
- 11.A man should not dress as a woman, or…
- 12.It is forbidden to invite a magician who performs…
- 13.It is clear and evident that according to halachah…
- 14.A groom, some of whose family members are secular…
- 15.It is severely forbidden for women to dance before…
- 16.If a video is being filmed, one must be…
- 17.The custom some Ashkenazim have of dancing with the…
- 18.It is forbidden for men to join the bride…
- 19.The custom has already developed to bless the bride…
- 20.It has already been explained that even though as…
- 21.A groom who has female relatives whom he knows…
- 22.A Torah scholar diligent in his studies may refrain…
- 23.The groom should not recite the blessing "Asher Tzag..."…
+Chapter 15 — Chuppah While the Bride Is a NiddahChapter 15 — Chuppah While the Bride Is a Niddah · 2 seifim
- 1.A bride who began her menstrual period before the…
- 2.A bride who began her menstrual period, and only…
+Chapter 16 — Laws of the Seven Blessings After the MealChapter 16 — Laws of the Seven Blessings After the Meal · 11 seifim
- 1.The widespread custom is to recite the seven blessings…
- 2.After the wedding meal, it is proper to be…
- 3.The groom and bride must eat a kezayit (olive's-bulk)…
- 4.One who did not eat a kezayit of bread…
- 5.The widespread custom is to recite the seven blessings…
- 6.One should not interrupt with speech between Grace After…
- 7.In the seven blessings recited after the meal, the…
- 8.It is a proper and correct custom to bring…
- 9.It is permitted to invite family relatives and neighbors…
- 10.Some are particular to bring sweet challahs to wedding…
- 11.A groom nowadays is obligated in the recitation of…
+Chapter 17 — Laws of the Seven Blessings During the Seven Days of the Wedding CelebrationChapter 17 — Laws of the Seven Blessings During the Seven Days of the Wedding Celebration · 35 seifim
- 1.The Sages instituted that one who marries should hold…
- 2.The custom some have of the groom and bride…
- 3.A widower who marries a virgin must rejoice with…
- 4.A bachelor who marries a widow has seven days…
- 5.One who is a widower marrying a widow, who…
- 6.The custom in the Land of Israel is to…
- 7.When a meal is held in the groom's home…
- 8.When only the blessing "Asher bara" is recited —…
- 9.When a meal is held in honor of the…
- 10.If all those present ate only pastry-type baked goods…
- 11.At the "seven blessings" meal held during the seven…
- 12.A groom and bride whose betrothal was arranged on…
- 13.Nevertheless, if they began a meal on the last…
- 14.However, if the meal concluded at night, neither the…
- 15.A groom and bride who began their meal on…
- 16.A groom and bride whose betrothal and seven blessings…
- 17.The same applies regarding the recitation of "nefilat apayim"…
- 18.If the Seder night falls within the seven days…
- 19.The Sephardic custom in the Land of Israel is…
- 20.However, if one of the three is a minor,…
- 21.In the wording of "Asher bara," our custom is…
- 22.The home of the groom's parents is not considered…
- 23.An Ashkenazi participating in the wedding feast of a…
- 24.When reciting the seven blessings in the groom's home,…
- 25.When a meal is held during the seven days…
- 26.If those eating at the meal did not hear…
- 27.Purim day is not considered a "new face."
- 28.Shabbat is considered a new face; therefore the seven…
- 29.Even if they ate a light bread meal in…
- 30.If they eat sweets and cakes at Shacharit, and…
- 31.If they ate the third Shabbat meal with the…
- 32.The custom is that the groom dines in one…
- 33.If they began reciting the seven blessings and some…
- 34.The common custom at the "seven blessings" meal is…
- 35.A groom who invited his guests to dine and…
+Chapter 18 — The Groom's Conduct During the Seven Days of the Wedding CelebrationChapter 18 — The Groom's Conduct During the Seven Days of the Wedding Celebration · 11 seifim
- 1.A groom within his first year of marriage may…
- 2.It is permitted for a groom to travel to…
- 3.It is not proper for a groom to immerse…
- 4.A groom within his seven days of celebration is…
- 5.The Sages instituted that whoever marries a virgin should…
- 6.If the groom has a business partnership with another…
- 7.It is permitted for the groom to get a…
- 8.It is permitted for the bride to launder a…
- 9.It is proper to be stringent and stand in…
- 10.Some say the groom should refrain from going out…
- 11.The groom should not refrain from attending the evening…
+Chapter 19 — Further Laws Related to the Seven Days of the Wedding CelebrationChapter 19 — Further Laws Related to the Seven Days of the Wedding Celebration · 6 seifim
- 1.Moshe Rabbeinu instituted for Israel that the groom observes…
- 2.A bride present in the women's section, without the…
- 3.It has already been explained above that if the…
- 4.When a groom is present in the synagogue, "Lamnatzeach…
- 5.On days when confession is not recited, "Tzidkatcha tzedek"…
- 6."Tikkun Chatzot" is not recited in the groom's home.
+Chapter 20 — Laws Related to the Groom's ShabbatChapter 20 — Laws Related to the Groom's Shabbat · 19 seifim
- 1.The Ashkenazic custom is that the groom is called…
- 2.When a groom within his seven days of celebration…
- 3.When there are two grooms present in the synagogue,…
- 4.In some places the custom is to hold communal…
- 5.In some places the custom is to take out…
- 6.The custom is that while the groom is called…
- 7.It is permitted for young children to gather the…
- 8.It is permitted to throw orlah fruit before the…
- 9.It is forbidden to clap hands on Shabbat and…
- 10.It is forbidden to play a musical instrument or…
- 11.As a matter of strict law, it is permitted…
- 12.The Sages forbade dancing on Shabbat, even at a…
- 13.Nevertheless, one may be lenient to allow simple walking…
- 14.The congregation should be cautioned not to sprinkle rosewater…
- 15.The custom has already developed to give gifts to…
- 16.The custom in some places of holding the groom's…
- 17.Regarding the custom of the groom sending a bouquet…
- 18.On the groom's Shabbat, if the floors of the…
- 19.On the groom's Shabbat, if the floors become dirty…
+Chapter 21 — The Law of Mourning for a Groom (see above)Chapter 21 — The Law of Mourning for a Groom (see above) · 10 seifim
- 1.A mourner within twelve months for a father or…
- 2.A bride within her year of mourning for her…
- 3.A groom within thirty days of his mourning, who…
- 4.A groom within thirty days of his mourning is…
- 5.A bachelor who has not yet fulfilled the mitzvah…
- 6.A woman mourning within the seven days of mourning,…
- 7.Parents of a groom or bride who are within…
- 8.The same law applies to the grandfather and grandmother…
- 9.A cantor who arrived from abroad to arrange the…
- 10.A groom within his seven days of celebration, during…